[JohnnaMJH]

Having gone through a two year process gone bad, I would say that the idea of being supportive and non-judgemental is the most important thing, and you already know that. :-)

Basically, I think that everyone who gets stuck like this, wonders if it's a sign that it is not meant to be and if they can handle going on.

For us, there were three times that we thought about quitting and we took that seriously and really thought it through. Each time, we decided that for us, we couldn't leave him in El Salvador and therefore we would just keep going until he came home or it fell through for reasons out of our control.

Usually if you think it through, think of the reality of it, I think most people decide to keep going. BUT, if they don't, then only they know what their family can handle. I think admitting that it's miserable for now and really just being in the moment with those emotions helps in th end. Mostly because I dont' think it's human nature to be stuck there forever. We are sad, we grieve and then we get back up and go on. So, I think by acknowledging the feelings and even wallowing in them, we help ourselves through them and enable ourselves to find hope again.

Sorry for rambling, but believe me I understand.

Good luck and bless you for being a good friend!