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Originally Posted by maviskat
Here is my question for those of you who have gone before us.....Did the open adoption plan you made end up being what you have today with the birth parents? If the plan changed, was it more or less contact?
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Hi Kathy,
We signed a legally binding open adoption contract. The birth mother then used that contract to turn around and file multiple charges against us - including a rescission of the adoption. Also, fraud, allegations to have him placed in foster care, coercion, let's see what else? Truly there were so many outlandish and false allegations filed against us that it is staggering.
We have now had our son for over 4 (FOUR!) years and are still in and out of court - and, oh yes,
the birth mother is not visiting. But she
is keeping us in financial and emotional upheaval (she receives free legal aid).
There are open adoptions which work out great - and there are open adoptions that don't, like mine. In fact, we expect to go back to court again sometime soon - or whenever the lawyers and judges get finished with the latest motions.
I believe people need to know both the upside and downside so that they can adequately prepare. You do need to realize that, at least in our case, the birthmom can STILL come back and continue to file against us - and STILL has open a motion for rescission of the adoption and to get my child back.
In some cases it works, in others it is a never-ending nightmare. Please be careful.
Best of luck to you!