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Originally Posted by MissyJ
(Hon, you honestly don't want to hear my rant <GRIN>)
They only give what the State mandates. That's all, nothing else. There is even some talk of making all of that illegal. Like that's going to change our DNA when we are adopted? Yet, the States we were adopted in will not cover us or our children with full health insurance until we die.
When open record legislation comes into a state, very few want to take up the cause to pass it. When closed and more restrictive stances come forth, everyone who supports that bombards the legislators, or in some cases, it is very low key and very few know about it.
I agree with you about full disclosure and completely open adoptions that cannot be closed. Only then will adoption be considered "a perfect solution." Until then, we have birth mothers who feel threatened by the child they gave up. We have birth mothers who have never told their families. We have birth fathers who really don't give a flip nor have they told their families. We have adoptive parents who feel threatened by this biological connection to "their child."
Then comes pay back time. The adoptee needs information in order to stay alive or fight a disease that is hereditary. What happens then? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. "Aw, too bad, the person is sick and/or dying. Sorry, can't give that info out." OR, if the adoptee is really lucky, they'll get something. OR, how about the adoptee who died, they won't tell the birth parents -- because the adoptive parents never notified them. What a shame.
Until attitudes change, we cannot get laws changed. Until the "perfection" of adoptive parents, the "shame" of birth parents and the stigma on the child is changed, well....nothing can happen.
BTW, in my opinion, adoption is not about the birth mother. You see example after example about what a throw away person she really is. No help, no counseling, no nothing. It is not truly about the child either, if it was, they would give the information out. Adoption is about the adoptive parents and their quest for a child.
(my opinion)
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