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Originally Posted By adoptee

I am a 20 year old adoptee. I will be meeting my birthmother in a couple of days. Probably the best thing that you can do, is not ignore the fact that they feel different in regards to this subject. The family tree thing will be especially hard, especially if they do not know what nationality that they are. They will do your family in the tree, but will really be wondering who their ancestors were since everyone else knows whether they are english, spanish, german, ect. If you know what nationality they are then would be a good time to tell them, emphasize that, and maybe even research their origin's culture. Tel them about the nationality and history that they come from if you know. If you do not know maybe ask them what nationality they think they are, show pictures from different nations ect. It will be hard, but you do need to let them know that you recognize that this is not their actual family tree and history. To have a parent that understands that will bring a lot of comfort. I know that everything will go well. God Bless in all you do.