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Yes, YOU ARE RIGHT ON TRACK!!! That is what I did. There is a fabulous children's book called "A mother for Choco" by Keiko Kasza. It is a very simplified story of a baby bird named Choco trying to find a mother that looks just like him. He looks everywhere and doesn't find a Mom that looks like him. He becomes sad and mother bear takes him home to her house where he finds that she has a house full of adopted children( animals) and they don't look like her either. But they call her Mommy and they are happy. He asks if she will adopt him too. She says yes. They live happily ever after. It is very sweet and simple. But it helped my sons to know that it is ok for them not to look like me. I can still love them just as much as any other mommy.
Hope this helps.

PS ~ our sons knew they were adopted from the time they were toddlers and could speak. They didn't really understand it until they were much older. They have truely come to appreciate all we do to adopt while waiting two years to bring Memo home.... That was a priceless education. For all of us.
Good luck and God bless.