[mommamarci]

Our son is not a foster to adopt situation, it is simply a domestic adoption, however, I thought I would chime in. We chose to give him four names. We chose the first name we liked, gave him dh's middle name and a second middle name which is the name he was given at birth. We decided this was the pattern we would use for all future children. That way we respect birthmom, give them some of their history, yet still give family names.