It sounds to me like what was agreed on at the beginning was regular pictures and the adad is not comfortable with the amom agreeing to actual communication more than that, looking ahead to the teen years when there will inevitably be times she will wish she could turn them in for another pair, or no pair, of parents. It's a major fear of some aparents regarding open adoption. I'm not saying that it's legitimate or not, just that it's a common fear. At least it sounds like they have good communication between them and talk and work together for her benefit.
Maybe you could ask that at least regular pictures and updates be restarted and continued, and that at least communication between you and the parents continue until and unless they
both are comfortable and agree to direct communication with the girl, and that your contact information be given directly to your daughter when she's 18? Then you at least have a chance to build a relationship of trust with the aparents and get updates and photos. It would be a good start.
I hope you can work out an agreement between you. God Bless.
I just realized that I said "at least" a lot in this post.
P.S. Did you get the pictures...at least?
