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Uboe42,
It's terrible what happened to you. I've been there. With our first placement, the sw trash-talked the parents. Some of it was true, but a lot of it was exaggerated and without going into detail, because of this false information, it ended up a very ugly, very sad situation for everyone. We almost walked away from foster care too as a result, but in time, realized it was one bad experience and we just got unlucky. It was very hard to rise above it, but we did and as a result, have been blessed immensely and now have two adoptive placements. Our newfound "wisdom" about the system back then turned out to be nothing more than anger at one individual who would've loved nothing more than to see us sabotage our own ideals about being foster parents.
I think your comments on TPR are just as insensitive as some of the things your cw said. Our fd is going to grow up in a drug-free home where she is not neglected, but doted on every day of her life. Drug addiction is curable sometimes, but often not, and I thank God every day that he protected her from whatever she lived through during her first 7 months. We are going to "celebrate" literally with the biggest party imaginable when all is finalized. At the same time, when I even think of her bio parents, I get a knot in my throat and a pain in my heart knowing what they will miss. There are no cold fish in this forum, and the sweeping judgments are nothing more than your misplaced anger. You should be lashing out at the cw, not the nice people on this forum.
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