[Forever_family]

Uboe,

I am also getting out of foster care for personal reasons but I have to say that you have mis-judged almost all the regular contributors to this forum. You have had one experience while many of the people here are seasonsed foster parents who have seen the ugliness that drug abuse, neglect, physical abuse, and sexual abuse can inflict on a child. You are by no means and expert on this. I know CPS does not go out of its way to take children from parents. THey are overwhelmed as it is. I had several emergency placements go immediatly home after CW worked very hard to remove them. 2 of these infants had life threatning injuries infliced by the adults living in the home they were returned to. In my opinion it should be easier to remove infants. It is true that you had a bad experience but don't you agree if an infants life is the risk factor it is best to play on the safe side? Having been to the infant ICU and held a baby who's skull was smashed in by one of her birth parents I for one beleive it is better to err on the side of caution.

I have just finished the reunification process after having our foster baby for the last 7 months. This was a process that involved EVERYONE to help this mom get her life together to parent her son. It has been a successful reunion but it takes all that a foster parent/family has to love a child as their own and then let them go. YOu have not had to do this and are not in a position to blanket judge the people here who have done this. Was it hard to say goodbye to him? Yes! Did he need to be in care? Yes! His mom was incarcerated because of illegal activity.

I feel SW's beleive in adoption becuase they know that people (for the most part) don't change and it becomes a cycle that never ends, the same families having children who enter care and go home again, enter care and go home agen then they have children who are having children abusing/neglecting..the same cycle of abuse over and over again UNLESS it can be stopped. Adoption is a very effective way to stop the cycle of abuse. This is WHY TPR is celebrated.

There are many reasons children are placed and many loving foster homes perform and invaluable a service we as a society should be grateful for. No, it is not for everyone but for those who are strong enough to do this time and time again I have nothing but good to say about them and you should be ashamed of yourself for implying and making blanket judgments.