[dadfor2]

From my short experience the system needs to be bashed, it needs to be spit on. It needs to be fixed. I myself cannot be apart of something like this. I feel I was so easily manipulated to help break a family apart.

not sure why you think you broke a family apart, the baby was only placed with you for a very short time. Unless i missed something.

You have alot of anger towards the system, and im not really understanding why. From what you wrote, the baby was placed with you to keep safe, which you did, and then from what you wrote, the allegations were not found and the baby was placed back with parents.

though i understand how hard that it is, but wouldnt it be better to be safe then sorry when it comes to children.

were you pre-adoptive parents, or foster parents?


Hopefully my short time here has opened some eyes, and corrected some tunnel vision. Even more hopefully some of you will ask yourselves if you were really doing this for the children, or have you been doing this for yourselves.

foster parents are doing it for the children, because you should see what some of these chidlren bring to the families. It is not pleasant.

Its a very hard job to take care of children that were abused and neglected. But they do it because they love children. why else would they do it? for the money?....lol.

they can get paid more for working at the library putting books on the shelf, and its very quiet.

so no, i dont think they are doing it for themselves.....

as for tunnell vision...i believe you wrote that you are totally new to this foster stuff. I also belive that some people arent cut out for it, it is heartwretching...

I know i had 'tunnell vision' when i first started, but when my kids finally got here, i had no choice but to take my rose colored glassess off.

Im sorry you had a bad experience, but i would think you would be glad that the baby was back with the family.....the ones that looked like you and your wife.