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You are correct dadfor2,
I defiantly am in the wrong forum. From my short experience the system needs to be bashed, it needs to be spit on. It needs to be fixed. I myself cannot be apart of something like this. I feel I was so easily manipulated to help break a family apart.
If there was some vindictive family member who first reported this family, shouldn’t there be some positive proof of neglect BEFORE placing the child in foster family. Why put a family and infant through all this separation anxiety if it wasn’t necessary. I just can’t imagine why they would take a child saying the parents did not bringing him to the doc, when the nurse tells us the family never missed a visit, and the doctor yelled at the social working about making a mistake.
Sorry none of this seems right. We were taught that reunification with the family is the main goal. But honestly we did hope to adopt. Hindsight I think that was slightly selfish for us.
Now that I have read over more posts from other people I realize that this is not the place for a person like me. If the goal of a foster parent is to provide temporary placement of children in need, until they can be returned to the parents, why is there so much celebration of a TPR. I know we loose a big part of our lives when the children are returned to the bio’s. But seeing as how that is the goal, shouldn’t that be a cause for celebration. When the bio’s get their act together or fix whatever problems there might be and the family is reunited. Why is breaking up a family a cause for celebration. Before I get seriously bashed on here let me please point out that some things with the bio’s I honestly believe cannot be fixed. In the case of physical abuse, sexual abuse, yes a TPR is a good thing. But poverty, and even drug abuse are correctable problems.
Bye all,
Hopefully my short time here has opened some eyes, and corrected some tunnel vision. Even more hopefully some of you will ask yourselves if you were really doing this for the children, or have you been doing this for yourselves.
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