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Originally Posted by Leigh131313
What do you like best about being closed?
What do you wish you could change?
Would you still chose closed if you had an option?
What would you like people to know about closed adoptions?
Thanks!!
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What do you like best about being closed?
What I like best is that it protects my son from being contacted by his birth family until he is an adult and can choose for himself. Since he was neglected, possibly abused and abandoned all by the age of 7 months, I think that's important for him. He gets a chance to grow up first and then decide whether he wants to contact them or not.
What do you wish you could change?
I wish he had more medical information. Both birth parents were asked to complete a form with background and medical information, and both left most of the form blank, only filling in some very sketchy information.
Would you still chose closed if you had an option?
Given my son's circumstances, definitely. As for myself. I would be comfortable with a semi-open arrangement in other circumstances. But I don't think I would want a fully open adoption.
What would you like people to know about closed adoptions?
That people can grow up healthy and happy in a closed adoption. In addition to my son, I have four adopted cousins and I had two adopted gradparents (my mom's mom and my dad's dad). I think we hear SO much negativity about closed adoptions, and none of the positives.