Please don't condem the whole barrel for that one bad experience!! Like was posted above, the CW didn't remove the child. And the cw also only has the info fed to her by the Protective Services worker.
No system is perfect and no one is without some sort of prejudice (or preference). With foster care - bad or non- parents are the norm. And they come in all shapes, sizes, colors, careers, and don't wear any signs at all so we know who they are. But in this case the safeguards did work. The child was in a kind, loving home until the case was sorted out and decided (hopefully) in the child's best interest. That is what FOSTER CARE is all about. The temporary caring and loving a child that is unlucky enough to need to be taken from thier home.
You sound like good, kind, compassionate, and empathetic people - maybe you could give it another try - and just don't plan the wedding until you get done dating. That's just a hint that I got from a long-time foster parent right after I started fostering.
And my own pearl. When you are listening to the CW - take the info with a ton of salt. In other words, remember, even the CW's don't know everything
:~)