[bagletkt]

Our adoption is closed due to the wishes of the bparents. We never spoke with them. They did not view our profile.

What do you like best about being closed?

I knew I would never be comfortable with an open adoption. I felt like I could keep in contact with the bparents but I did not think I could have vistits. I cannot explain why I just would not be comfortable with this.


What do you wish you could change?

I wish we would have been able to meet DS baprents. I cannot explain why. It may be selfish but I just wanted them to know who they were placing their son with. I wanted them to know that we woul be good parents.

Would you still chose closed if you had an option?

I would love to have a semi-open adoption. We have told our agency we would love to do this if the bparents ever changed there minds. Im our next adoption I would do closed if that is what the bparents would want.

What would you like people to know about closed adoptions?

The only thing I can say is to be fair with the bparents. Be completely honest about the level of openss you are willing to accept. We would have been completely willing to do a semi-open but they wanted it closed. I do not think it is a bad thing. Just different.