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I think he is old enough to have an adult discussion about how his disappearing act makes you feel. If he doesn't respond in a mature manner than I would have to tell him that the relationship is not working and he shouldn't contact you again until he is ready to have an adult relationship that respects eachothers feelings. As an bmom I don't know if I could actually do that. But i think that's what needs to be done. It will be hard. You and your husband are planning your future and I don't think your past should interfere with that. --- It is different with boys. They take so long to grow up. I think he needs to know that there are boundaries to any relationship and you will not be treated this way by anyone. Good luck, and I hope he comes to his senses and realizes that no matter how old or young or what other things are going on in his life, he needs his mom!
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