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Our baby was already born and birthmom had chosen us. Even so, we did not take our children to the hospital to pick up the baby. I knew I wanted to speak with birthmom (which we did) and didn't want other children running around.
I agree that bringing other children along, could cause a lot of pressure to the birthfamily; I also think it could cause more problems for the existing children in the adoptive family. (Of course, there are exceptions, and I can understand some of them that have already been posted here.)
But, for us, we knew that the signature from the birthparents was still a few days away. I told our other children that having this new baby was 'not a sure thing, and to remember that the birthmother might change her mind, in which case, we would just be watching this baby for a few days'.
There's enough emotional stuff going on while waiting for final decisions (on all sides). I think it could be more detrimental on existing children, should the birthfamily change their minds--if the child/ren were allowed to come to the hospital too. JMO
Sincerely,
Linny
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