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Old 09-29-2006, 08:55 PM
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Originally Posted by LilyMoon
I have to question whether your child has fully attached if he is still displaying tantrums and "naughty" behavior. Attached children really don't tantrum and act defiant.

Sorry, but I must disagree with this. ALL children have tantrums and act defiant- not just PI children who are attachment challenged.

Christina- I think using the thinking chair is a great idea. I also love the name "thinking chair" as opposed to something like "naughty or time-out chair". I think once children realize there are consequences for their actions that they don't really like, and that those consequences are consistent, you will see a huge change in behavior. Consistency is the key...very hard at times, but very important. My suggestion would be that after a consequence has taken place, just give him a hug, tell him you love him and even though he did a not-very-nice thing, he is still a good boy. I haven't read the Love and Logic book yet, but I like the premise. Good luck!!
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