[LilyMoon]

I agree that exposing the kids to the loss of a friend's mother would be very difficult emotionally for them. I don't believe I would expose my dd to such if I could avoid it. It is so hard for kids to put such am occurance into perspective...heck, it's hard for adults to make sense of such a loss. I don't believe my child would be able to seperate the idea of someone else losing their mother and her losing her own.

I hope you are able to find a way to let the family know how much you care and share their pain while at the same time protecting your kids. Maybe you and your husband could take turns going to their home and lending your support.