My best advice so far? Don't sweat the homestudy. I made this up in my head to be the worst thing that could ever happen to a person, and reacted accordingly. I had near panic attacks before, and then after, when I know things had gone well.
I am a very, very private person. To invite a STRANGER into my home, and into my mind is inconceivable. But, guess what? The pain of cleaning my house to the point that I thought would be acceptable to the SW was far more painful than the actual interviews. Did I go overboard? Yes, but truthfully, the basement was WAY overdue to be scrubbed down, LOL (and I made DH do it!).
Another thing I liked.........
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However you feel is ok - don't worry that it's the wrong feeling - you may not fall in love with the baby right away, you may resent the baby at night when you're tired, that's all ok - your feelings are your feelings and you don't need to feel guilty if you're not full of love every minute of every day with this child.
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I have a feeling this will come in handy when DS is home :-)