[Kasey]

Alek was so little when he came home (5 1/2months), so we most likely wouldnt have run into alot of attachment problems if any, but we did alot of AP techniques, more me than DH, I still do alot, 2+ years later, I think I also tend to coddle a little more than DH does and I am starting to see a few things that probably shouldn't be happening.
I have been ignoring tantrums if we are at home and he is in a safe room, I just walk away and tell him, mommy would love to talk to him when he is ready. That has been helping. It is hard sometimes though, because at 2 1/2, it is a tough age, still my little baby, but becoming a "big boy". I also like the Love and Logic and a book that has been good for us, is Raising the Sprited Child (kindly supplied to me by mom after an overnight with Alek!).
One thing lately we have been doing, when he starts whining, crying, acting out over stuff is giving him two choices: 1) you can stop whining and read this book 2.) we can take a break and go rest in your room, things like that, I always make the one choice sound alot better than the other--he seems to like that and it seems to give him some control over the situation.
Best wishes and I would love to hear other ideas as well!