[germangrloh]

I am a birthmother and very happy with my placement with his family. But I have concerns just like every birthparent out there. My concern is the deceit that agencies are giving to birthparents. I have been doing much research and have been speaking to several attorneys and have written several letters to state legislatures. I believe that it is time that changes be made in the adoption process. I believe that the government needs to make Open Adoptions either a legalized adoption situation or they need to not allow agencies to offer this glorified option to birthparents. Although I am completely happy with my sons family, I will always have the worries of will they ever cut my contact off. After reading so many sad stories of this happening to birthmothers everywhere I believe it is time that something needs to be done. There is just way to much with the adoption process that is not in the best interest to the parties involved. Lack of support, lack of counseling or knowledge of alternative options, lack of curtisy from many agencies by not disclosing the entire legalities with Open Adoption. In fact the only adoption there is by law is Closed Adoption. THere is nothing legally enforceable with Open Adoptions as far as the contact etc. So why do agencies offer this? Why is it glorified to birthmothers? I am only one person and in order for changes to be made I believe that there has to be many voices heard. I believe that agencies that have openly mislead birthparents need to be accountable for there actions. I would like to start a petition to help make these changes to be sent to goverment legislation. I believe that we must start somewhere.

I want to note that in no way am I against adoption, or against the amazing families out there that have become parents to our children. But I believe that there needs to be something done to prevent other birthmothers and bparents from experiencing the emotional suffering invovled with open adoptions gone closed and vice versa for adoptive children who's birthparents disapear without being heard from again. I apologize if I have offended anyone but I am just very emotional at the issue that mine or any other birthparent could have contact cut off with our children at any point and there is nothing we can do about it. We placed our children into open adoptions for the reason of contact/ letters/pictures and I feel that we should be able to feel secure that it will never end. If you are interested in signing a petition to try to help reform adoption or have any other issues you would like to have brought forward please email me. Let's work together and bring an end to the sometimes pain and hurt involved with adoption.