[kjdnyc]

Best advice I got so far was from another single adoptive mom I met while on a visit trip - she was picking up - she got the advice from another friend and wrote it on a piece of paper and read it like a mantra to herself on the plane on the way to pick up the baby:

However you feel is ok - don't worry that it's the wrong feeling - you may not fall in love with the baby right away, you may resent the baby at night when you're tired, that's all ok - your feelings are your feelings and you don't need to feel guilty if you're not full of love every minute of every day with this child.