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ess922,
I understand your ambivalence about changing your numer and e-mail address. It seems like you are wanting to both keep yourself safe and free yourself from some of this stress and at the same time allow for future correspondence and the possibility that things may change down the road.
I really admire you. I think there are several ways you can do both of those. One is the free website as listed by the above poster. Another is to hire a mediator through which phone calls and pics can be sent. Another is to open a P.O. Box and give her that address to let you know where she can be reached and then you make the decision on how/when to respond. Another is to hire an attorney as mediator. Another is to hire an agency as mediator. On and on I could go - but one thing seems certain at this point - you are not feeling comfortable and safe with her having your e-mail and phone number. CHANGE THEM. Do not feel guily about protecting yourself from this kind of stress. But I agree - do something to allow for correspondence - just make it something which you are comfortable with. I also would not completely cut off contact with the birthmom - but it needs to be healthy contact for all of you.
Please - don't let the stress get to the point where you are so resentful that it interferes with your bonding or parenting or just daily life. You can fix it before it gets to that point.
Best wishes.
Christie S.
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