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Originally Posted by loveajax
"Your daughter is sooooo lucky to have you!"
It is my biggest pet peeve. I know it's supposed to be "nice," but I usually reply, "Oh no! WE are the lucky ones!" I just hope people would not say this when she is older (she's only 16 months now), because I will throttle them.
Anyway, what are some things that drive you crazy about what people say to you when they learn/know your child is adopted?
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Nothing really drives me crazy anymore I guess. I have comments for most things that people say. I realize they're usually trying to be nice, in their own way.
The comment you described used to bug me alot, but I just say this... "It has nothing to do with luck" (I don't believe in it...) and "we just feel blessed to be able to know her and be her parents".
THe one that bugged me for the longest time was when people would alway say "She looks just like you". I felt it minimized the credit her first parents deserve for having such an amazingly beautiful daughter. But truth is... she does look like me, even her first mom says so. She looks more like me than she does her first mom. It's crazy.
THe one thing I don't let go that really gets under my skin is "you deserve to be her parents, you've been through so much". Nope... we don't deserve this at all. No one "deserves" to be a parent. It's a privilege. I make that very clear.