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Originally Posted by BrandyHagz
If you can call a pregnant women a mother before the act of giving birth, it certainly stands to reason that you could call a pregnant woman considering adoption a birthmother before giving birth, so why the split hairs?
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For me the pregnant woman is carrying a child therefore the title of mother is valid. She is with child. She is mothering the child in womb.
However, a birthmother can only be when she relinquishes her child. It's the act of relinquishing that makes her a birth mother. I feel that it should not be used PRIOR to placement. She is an expectant mother considering adoption.
I don't think the tem potential bmother makes the adoptive parents feel any more entitled to the child. I think that is a false statement. We've been counseled well that it is the expectant mothers baby until she signs away her rights PERIOD!!! Calling her an expectant mother/birth mother won't change a thing for the acouple, but for the expectant mother, the term birth mother could make her feel pressure to place.
Again, I don't think it should be used prior to birth. Our agency used expectant parent.
