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Originally Posted by BrandyHagz
If you can call a pregnant women a mother before the act of giving birth, it certainly stands to reason that you could call a pregnant woman considering adoption a birthmother before giving birth, so why the split hairs?
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I think that a pregnant woman being called a mother (provided she isn't going to have an abortion) is something that is going to happen, whether she picks adoption or parenting. Whether she is a mother or a birthmother doesn't matter, she will be a mother to this child. (Some would also argue that she is already a mother, because she is nurturing her child within her womb).
However, before she signs the adoption papers and terminates her parental rights, she is "Considering" adoption, and is entitled to change her mind, if she so chooses. Therefore, because she hasn't signed those papers, she still has the option of being a mother, and the term birthmother would not apply to her.
Also, it can be a real letdown for adoptive parents, if they call a woman a birthmother before she decides to be a birthmother, and then changes her mind to parent.