[taramayrn]

I am so sorry you are experiencing. I think you have some real valid concerns. Now, how do you implement the changes in contact? Do you have an agency that can help mediate between you two? I think you need to talk to bmom when she calls next, be prepared for the back lash. She will not understand, I imagine, and will be angry. Reiterate that you are not closing the adoption, but are feeling the need to only send pictures and letters due to her behavior. Does she have a relative that you can send letters to where she can pick them up?
(((HUGS)))