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Originally Posted by BrandyHagz
If you can call a pregnant women a mother before the act of giving birth, it certainly stands to reason that you could call a pregnant woman considering adoption a birthmother before giving birth, so why the split hairs?
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We can look at it from a legal standpoint: Considering adoption is not relinquishing, it is just considering adoption. Legally the parents are the pregnant mother and the father. Period. In the eyes of the law they are parents until the papers are signed and they are legally responsible in making any and all decisions regarding the baby.
Or you can look at it in terms of role. A pregnant woman is the mother because she not only gave the child half her genetic make-up, but in "mothering" the child, she is parenting. If the expectant mom is not parenting the child, than who is?
Or you can ask "Why do people believe that considering adoption makes an expectant mother "less than"? After all birthmothers have less rights, responsibilities and a totally different role than "mothers". I do not believe considering adoption should take away that role or those rights and responsibilities.