[kakuehl]

Hi Brandy,
As a "birthmother" in reunion with my son (or should I say the baby I placed for adoption?) I've run into quite a few women on these forums or otherwise who object to the use of birthmom altogether. Some prefer first mother, others "natural" mother.

Personally, I don't object to birthmother - I gave birth to him. (This would raise a question for me, Can I be a birth mother before I give birth? It seems to me that while I was pregnant, I was his mother, the one who was nourishing him and caring for him -- yes I realize it was mostly happening automatically. as my body did what it was intended to do!) D's amom is the mother who raised him and so for me she is also his mother (without the a!). For me, in a very real sense, D has two mothers both of whom love him very much.

I don't know that this sheds much light on your question, but it's the best I can do right now!