"We've never dealt with this issue" is the party line. They refuse to deal with these situations and they happen frequently. Parents are not taught about the bonding cycle and what happens when it's broken. Parents are not taught about developmental issues caused by severe neglect or missing the crucial bonding time. Families are not taught how to parent from day one in ways that will facilitate attachment. They are not offered post placement assistance and support.
Often times, when parents call the agency for help, they are given the brush off and told to love the child more. Love doesn't fix chronic neglects affects on the brain.
Cynthia, no agencies were involved at all in the disruptions I adopted from. They were not interested in helping the families at all.
Will the inbetween transitional home make him worse? Not necessarily. It is another break but if the family is RAD trained and able to help him learn to live in a family and help transition him into a permanant placement then it can be a benefit.
How are they going about finding another family? They need to be sure whoever they find understands the real issues so as not to send him bouncing place to place.
Nancy Spoolstra, of the Attachment Disorder Network may be able to provide you more information on what the options are for how you disrupt. It's done some many different ways. You can email her at
Nancy@radzebra.org . Her website is
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She also writes the reactive attachment disorder blog on this site.
Feel free to pm me if you want to discuss this more.