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Originally Posted By Pam

Kathy,
I wanted to share our story with you...we have two bio children (11 years and 9 years old) and one adopted daughter (20 months). We always wanted 4 children: 2 boys and 2 girls. In a search for a son, we found 4 siblings (2 boys and 2 girls) in the foster care system that look like an excellent fit with our family! We are pursuing adopting this sibling group. We have had lots and lots of comments from friends and family. Some of the comments range into the questions of what are we doing? I think people bring their own experiences in parenting to those types of comments. We love our children and look forward to sharing that love and incorporating these children into our family. When the comments from strangers become too much to bear, we resort to the comment "thanks for sharing" and walk away. Since strangers do not know the circumstances and you are not obligated to inform them, the best strategy is to recognize their comments and dismiss them. I congratulate you and your family for supporting the children. They are our future and a solid foundation certainly makes everyones world a better place.