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Dear Sunshine, I am an adoptee and I have reunited with my BMom 4/1/06. I was here looking at some posts, trying to get an idea of how she felt in 1969 and how she may feel now. I wanted to send you a message about our first meeting from a birth daughters perspective.
I was very nervous (I am 37 yrs old). We hugged and my Mom cried, sobbed even. I cried but was shaking more. I was pretty weepy through the whole first meeting, 2 1/2 hrs. We have been in constant contact since then and I have been embraced by both sides of the family with open arms. I love my BMom so very much.
Don't be surprised if more emotions come later. I leave my Mom and I cry the whole way home because I don't want to go (seems to be common with a lot of us I hear). Another thing I had a very difficult time with (and this is embarrrassing) was seeing her raise my two siblings. I can't believe I am 37 years old and I'm green with envy at seeing them all together, and I missed it. I know it may sound childish and petty but it was how I felt and since recognizing it I am able to get a better handle on it. I only tell you this because she is 17 years old. I also considered my life to be happy but there will be a connection that is undeniable and she may feel many gaps starting to fill in for her and it is alot of emotions to try to manage all at once.
Enjoy your fist meeting and I wish you the best.
DebSW
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