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This made me think of my mom & dad's best friends (who are more like family to us.) They have a son by adoption, and to an outsider, it might seem that this family arrangement had everything stacked against it.....he is 23 years younger than their oldest biological child, he is biracial and they lived in a very small UNintegrated town (I am talking NO african-american residents at the time), he had a stroke at birth that left one arm & leg partially paralyzed, and on the list goes. He grew into a brilliant, handsome, popluar young man with the most charming personality! He really is a favorite wherever he goes, but they always worried that he would feel "weird" or "less than" because of all the differences he had to deal with.
Anyway, he began college this semester and in his speech class they had to give a speech on themselves & their life story. Imagine his mom's surprise (and delight) when he called and said, "Man, after listening to all those stories, I am the only normal one in that whole class! My life is pretty boring." Hahahaha
What an encouragement to me to not worry about adoption negatively impacting my child. I know there will be painful times, but that's life. Everyone has issues to deal with and it's all normal!
Hugs,
Ashleigh
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