i dont know, but it at this point, i dont think anything is so black and white. the biggest thing i saw was:
My 4 year old ds, just placed with me on 8/31/06
i dont know, its only been a few weeks with this child with you, his behaviors are going to be out of wack, as well they should be.
a major problem transitioning him to daycare
if there is any way that he can stay home with you for a while, you mentioned that you have to go back to work in nov, so im assuming that you are on family leave for this child. or took some time off to take care of this child.
my suggestion is quit the day care and spend time with him. His whole life is in chaos right now, he needs some stability, and by sending him to day care after only a short time of him coming to you, sounds like he is trying to control his chaotic life because the adults in his life are not to be trusted.
as for trazadone, thats a heavey sleep med and that could be causing his outbursts during the day. but from you wrote sounds like you kinda have an idea on why he may be a cranky spanky due to always feeling tired
my younger son is on clonidine, though its not a sleep aid, it does work like a charm and he is only on a little and functions pretty good. it basically helps with his anxiety at night, with closing his eyes.
but to be honest, at this point, i dont think any meds is going to help this child until he has some consitancy in his life and feels safe.
sorry to sound so bleak, but that is what it sounds like to me.
if you need to bring the child to day care, i would probably suggest you talk to his pedi about what is going on with the meds.
he sounds like one scared little guy trying to make sence of all these strangers.
but again, if there is anyway that you can skip the day care and spend time with him to make him feel a little safe,and mother him a little, that might be just what he needs to get beyond this 'infant stage' that you are talking about. sounds like he is stuck because he wants someone to come along and fill that need....daycare just wont cut it.
He screams with a high pitched blood curdling scream
not to get even more down...but my 8 yr old still has these screams...
MY GOD, its not so much the infant stage anymore, but the the screams......i have to at times leave the room....
but better then it was..