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There have been so many times over the last 2 months that I've felt blessed by this group and the women here (and all the forums). It is a place that has so much information and experience. Thank you all so much for your input.
Funny thing is that though I was so upset by this last night (and it's still a concern) I never once thought of not going through with this. I know deep in my heart that Ben and I will be great parents.
I suppose I do get conflicted about how we are becoming parents. Not because I'm not a supporter of adoption (and have always been), but more because I worry that an outsider may look at our family and think that we or someone else related to our adoption did something unethical. It saddens me beyond belief that there is a woman out there who is currently pregnant and planning to hand her infant to someone else ... for whatever reason. And at the same time I am rejoicing because soon we will be parents. It is an enormous weight to know that my joy will be at someone elses sadness.
I believe fully in the balance in our world and I know in my heart that out of every negative, there is a positive. It's just hard to be hit in the face with that so personally.
Thanks especially Brandy for your words. I'm so sorry that you've gone through the pain of poor parenting, but you are such a blessing in understanding that it was their fault as parents, not your fault as an adoptee. I'm betting they would've been bad parents bio or adopted (lol). Thanks so much for sharing.
My hopes are that all of us here have a peaceful, ethical adoption and find the unique ways of our child to make him or her understand that they are a part of our family in good times and bad!
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