[WVUMom418]

I worried about this issue when we first started our adoption but then I took a hard look at some families around me and my own family. I know some families who have adopted and their kids grow up saying they don't want to know their bio parents because the parents who raised them are thier Mom and Dad. I also know some that say they feel empty and incomplete without knowing thier bio parents. I think a lot of it comes down to individual personality.

I have a very good friend who has bio 3 kids, even though she has raised them all the same they have all turned out so totally different. One is a straight A student in college, one has been arrested for DWI and got really poor grades and one who had no desire to even go to college. They all have such unique personalities that you would think they grew up in different families. Go figure.

I have a 20 year old son, some days I am so proud of him and other times I wonder what planet is he living on I raised him better than that. There are no guarentees with any of our kids, just like there are no instruction manuals when we have them. We can only work hard to do our best to raise them to be productive, loving adults.