I don’t want to share my entire story – but I know some of the adoptees here posted – so I wanted to post as well, just to prove that it comes from all sides
I am an adoptee, adopted a birth, and I loath my parents
HOWEVER – my reason for loathing them with a passion has nothing to do with adoption or my desires to know my blood or whatever
Just remember – there can be other extenuating circumstances that play into why an adoptee feels the way they feel.
In my case, it was bad parenting that resulted in my growing up in a group home without any ‘parents’ to speak of. They try now…but I can’t get over my treatment as a child and the resentment I hold for them keeps me from being able to form a bond with them.
Again, nothing to do with adoption – everything to do with bad parenting – which is also an equal opportunity issue.
You’ll be fine. The fact that you care just proves that you’ll be ok!