I haven't read the other responses, but as you may know, DH and I are considering adopting our third child. I posted the other night in the Adoptees forum looking for some answers to questions, and then I went on to read a little. I FREAKED OUT also. Of course, everything mentioned ARE concerns of mine (and I found out from this forum are concerns of most aparents). But the lengths to what people were saying, just scared me. Now I'm back to being on the fence.
But like Brandy said, I think it all depends on the situation. it could happen with a bio child just as it could an aparent.
For me, I'm just as scared to have a third bio kid as a third adopted kid.
Also, most of the people that I saw were older. Back then adopted was more of a shush thing, and not as accepted as nowadays. They have support groups for the kids, etc. Back then it was not like this. So hopefully that helps our generation of adopted kids feel better
