[jenniem]

I, too, am concerned about this, but then I think it's only normal and a bit healthy. I am doing a lot of reading right now, as Brandy suggested.

The other thing that helps me is my adoptee friends. I have three very close friends that were all adopted as infants. One has had more of a struggle with it at certain times in her life, but mostly because she was told later on. That said, she loves her adoptive parents very much. The other two have told me that they have had fantastic lives and are grateful to their adoptive parents. They wouldn't change a thing. And one of those was abused. Amazing!

It's a loss, no doubt, for our children, but we can help them process that loss. I am very optimistic!!