My daugther is 7 and I secretly have these thoughts sometimes. That being said, she is very very bonded to us. We have an open adoption and she loves her first mother but she is not MOMMY and really does not want her to feel that way. I just attended an adoption seminar that did long term studies of adopted children. They were so positive. Adopted children most often make great grades, have diverse friendships, are more prone to succeed, etc. Now, you know that in every thing we encounter there are negatives.............and yes there are adults who are unhappy. I will tell you a funny story. Our social worker adopted internationally abour 25 years ago. Well, her daugther hit the teen years and started with all the you should have left me there......................she sent her there for a month with her grandmother.............daughter came back and said THANK YOU....I do not ever want to stay there that long again..........she is now working with mothers making adoption plans. Stop worrying!!
