[Tiggysgirl]

Insomnia struck last night again and I happened to be lookiing through the forums. One of the recent posts was in the adoptee support section. I almost feel like I've snooped or invaded privacy. Just what I've read broke my heart AND scared me to death.

Much of the thread talked about adoptees and the issues they had with their adoptive parents. I don't even know where or how to begin. All I know is I'm now petrified that in 5, 10, 20 years the child that I bring into my family will resent or hate me.

I just felt so sad reading the thread. I completely don't feel like an adopted child should feel obligated to love his or her adoptive parents, but I want my child to feel just that. That he or she IS my child. I guess I've been very naive in thinking that just us being completely accepting of our children was enough. Is it not?

Is there only room for one mother to child bond? Meaning that my child will have to cut out either the bond created during pregnancy with his or her first mother or never create a bond with me?

What can I do? Am I just getting scared?