[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

I actually had to try to explain this to my mother's boyfriend. He wanted to know when we were going to tell the boys they were adopted. (I know this is the Guat forum, and I adopted thru foster care, but wanted to share) They look an awful lot like us, so it woudl be pretty easy NOT to tell them. But not only was that never an option, but our family is too big and in each others business too much to keep a secret like that.

Anyway, I told him that they would always know. We wouldn't have to "tell" them so to speak. He insisted that they would have to be told so that they would know. I didn't know how else to explain it to him. I simply asked him "at what age did your parents sit you down and tell you that you were a boy?" He was kind of taken aback and said "they didn't have to...I just knew". To which I replied "EXACTLY!"