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I agree with the others. I would read up on Post Adoption Depression if I were you. I didn't bond with my second son right away. I was resentful with myself and knew it wasn't fair to him. Mom's who birth thier children don't always feel the same bond with each kid--it doesn't mean they love them less, just differently. My boys have unique things about them that I love and each have things about them that drive me nuts. I'm soooo glad we didn't back out with our youngest. He NEEDS me. It's not about me anymore. I was his Mommy and to stop that for my own feelings of unrecognized PAD (in my case) would have been selfish of me and would have scarred him in loosing his Mommy. When we agree to do foster with the intention to adopt, the toddler or baby doesn't know the case is not legally finalized. They know us as Mom. Before you decide to give up, imagine the consequences for life--for you, for your son. Will they be worse than continuing to raise him?
Take care. I understand the confussion and frustration.
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Mommy by adoption to 2 beautiful boys, one born in '01, the other in '03. Now mommy to a new little girl born in '08, full bio to our oldest son. This adoption is in progress. We adopted through Oregon's DHS.
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