[srspiv]

I have always talked about adoption with my older son. Way before he could understand what it meant, he knew the word. We have books about adoption that we read as well.

He also has several friends who were adopted and he knows that. And, of course, he was very interested in his brother's process.

I think it is important that they hear the words early, even if they have no idea what you're talking about so it will never seem like a surprise.