[shy_bear]

something my 5 yr old got from her birthmom???? Little background; we have had her since she was released from the hospital at two days old. Birthmom is a person who has and still does have "trauma" in her life. She is the type of person who acts like the world is out to get her, yet does nothing to improve her situation. When you talk to her she always sounds like something horrible just happened to her. She had a bad life growing up, a very dysfunctional family, and she has VERY low self esteem.
5 year old is the type that if you tell her she looks nice she will tell you no I don't I look ugly. She always thinks everyone can do things better than her and is smarter than her. She is on the hyper active side; we don't think it is ADHD b/c she can turn it off when she wants to. She has asked some hard questions about her adoption at a young age. She has a VERY hard time making friends.
Not to say we are the great parent's; we have made our share of mistakes, but overall we are a good family and I don't understand where this behavior comes from. We are postive with her, we encourage her to do her best. We are waiting to talk to the teacher at parent/teacher conferences in the begining of Oct. and then we may move forward with starting counseling. I don't want her to go down a bad path later in life so my thought is if we can help her now that would be better.

So I guess my question still is can low self esteem be something that is inherited????