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There is 7.5 years between our #2 and our #3. In those years we did just what you are doing, living as a family. In my heart I knew I was not done but I didn't have it in me to do another adoption. We also spent several years TTCing during that time and that makes you TIRED. When our 2nd IVF failed I started just asking around about private adoption (the others had been foster/adopt) In that inquiry process I stumbled onto an adoption situation that was perfect and we adopted our Sammy and our family grew to include his birthfamily. The minute he was home I was sure I wanted one more but having three kids and my first newborn who was exclusively breastfed and co-sleeping meant that I just didn't have the band width to think about #4. Sam Weaned just after his 3rd birthday and I began to explore our adoption options again Within six months I was ready and by his 4th birthday we were matched. Miranda was born two weeks later. I think adoption is too hard to do uness you are emotionally prepared. I would have liked my kids closer together and if they had benn biological they probably would have been but I honestly could not have done it anyother way. Oh yeah there is the whole money part too. It takes awhile to build up the reserves to do private adoptions.
lisa
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