I don't think anyone here was trying to judge you (just offering some thoughts on the subject
) and as someone that has been home for 2 years now I can tell you from experience that I felt like this for the first year at least! When I look back now I realize that it was more about me and how people were obviously thinking I could not possibly know what I was doing as this was my first child and all
. Everytime someone tried to do something that I thought I should be doing I immediately thought they were interferring and defeating all my efforts with attachment. But it really made me feel like they thought I was inadequate and overprotective and they were going to just take over. My MIL had this idea that because she was the grandmother that she had special rights and privileges to take over (she did this with her own daughter when she had kids) and she was really surprised when I stood my ground with the "rules" (especially the first year, it was so hard. Believe me when I say that attachment parenting does not win any popularity contests and I am with Karen, I stood my ground and could not care about hurt feelings at that time, it had to be done. Now, we get nothing but compliments (many from MIL) about how well adjusted and good mannered Adrian is and what a great job we have done (excuse me "I" have done as DH is a momma's boy and it was a fight all the way with him
and now even he tells me what a great job I have done, go figure!!!). Do what needs to be done (tell them straight out to stop or you will not be around them for a while, plain and simple) and try not to let them make you feel bad about your parenting methods, you know what you need to do. The best of luck!!!!