TraceyK,
I have noticed that our DD now cries when her hair is washed. This all started at about 10 months. I'd heard that some AA children have sensitive scalps and thought that it wouldn't be a problem for us....that is until we hit 10 months
I want to second the NO POO method. It has worked wonders for DD's hair. If we do shampoo (every few months) I use the same Pantene product that you mentioned.
Your DD's pictures are adorable!