I have a few of those in my life, one in particular. After hours of discussion about my fd's and foster children in general and possible issues(RAD, AD) and explaining what these were about. . . no go. It may just be that someone who isn't in our position doesn't understand how being so attentive ect can hurt.
And No, most of the time they dont' trust our judgement(the please trust me. . .)
I have had the same sort of simpleton advice, I have been around and taking care of children most of my adult life(including their kids!) but now that I have children in my care fulltime, watch out, she might not know what to do!
And yes, we probably do take it to heart a bit more than we should, but no doubt some boundaries are overstepped. If you figure out a way to make them understand , please share. I too limit time with these people. I wish I could make them understand when I need support from them, it is just that, it is not caring for the kids. Someone who actual took the time to take my call and let me talk about something that has me upset, now that would be a help!
