[LilyMoon]

Oh, how I know what you are going through! As the Mom to a child who came home with attachment issues, I have been there. It is certainly good that you are well aware of what is best for your child and by all means go with your intuition on this one...if you feel uncomfortable about it, then it is real and needs to be addressed as uncomfortable as it might be for everyone.

I made it clear to friends and family that WE were going to be the sole caretakers to our child. That visits will remain short and NO touching, feeling, kissing of any kind. It sounds harsh, I know, but I knew this is what our daughter needed. For well over a year, I kept this up. I told people that we were working on "do not talk to strangers" when they approached our child. I always sat next to my child at meals and had my husband on the other side. When people offered my daughter food, I would say "No, thanks, she has her meal already and we prefer she eats her own food and not off others plates."

I may have alienated certain friends and family and have lost contact with a few. I know I did what was best for my child and now, three years later, we are no longer dealing with attachment issues. She knows her boundaries and can make it clear to others on her own. She understands her family vs. extended family and friends. She is appropriate in situations with people. It took a great deal of time and perserverance, but it was well worth it.

If you would like to talk further please feel free to PM me.
Best wishes,